💋 Office Hours June Replay

Play parties, trouble with orgasm, sex on drugs & more

Ya’ll are really coming through with the great questions! If you need a little reminder, Office Hours is the members-only ask me anything. All questions are answered, and no question is too small, silly, or weird. This is your space to get the support you want in a way that’s private, accessible, and (hopefully) a little fun.

Each month when I share these replays, you’ll see the exact questions that were asked (always kept anonymous), so you can upgrade when it feels right for you.

Transcript, video and audio along with all resources mentioned can be found behind the paywall below.

🗓 Next Office Hours:
July 3rd — 12p PT / 3p ET
If you missed your chance to submit a question this month, you can submit anytime for July using THIS LINK.

A little news before we dive in…

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Onto this month’s questions:

• What should I expect for my first sex party experience? How do I find the right one?

• How would you teach someone the difference between a top and a dom? My friend and I are both women in the play scene in LA. We are both looking to play with a dom who has dom energy. We find a lot of people say they want to take control but energetically they don’t… at least not in the way either of us is looking for. To me, many people who say they are a dom are actually a “top”— they prefer to do stuff to someone rather than have it done to them. But a dom is in energetically in control. Even if someone restrains you, engages in impact or other pain play, or tells you what to do— there can still be some magic ingredient in dominance that’s lacking. How do you articulate what makes a good dom? Can dominance be taught?

• So as I am new to the kink space, Or BDSM world if you will. I am concerned with coming out a sissy. I love everything about it and ever since I have I can’t seem to get away from the infatuation. I need some serious affordable 1 on 1 coaching.

• I try to get my girlfriend to talk but she just shuts down. When I've suggested going to therapy, she wants nothing to do with it. What can I do? How can I get her to talk to me about sex? I don't get it, I'm so open and she's just unwilling to share. Help!

• I’m a 34 year old woman who struggles to orgasm, what can I do?

• My partner is very sexual and we seem to match very well in bedroom. But currently I’m dealing with a trauma related to alcohol and general state of intoxication. It causes discomfort around drunk/impaired people. My partner likes to get high before having sex, claiming it makes it easier for her to get out of the head and just feel her body better. This situation creates unpleasant tension within myself as I don’t know how to interpret that statement. Does the sex for my partner is desirable only when high? Does being high alters sensations during sex? It makes me worried that I might have sex with my partner while she is not fully in control of her body, which might lead to confusion or causing harm. And finally am I having sex with the person I really know or some kind of alter ego? I know You won’t be able to answer those questions for her, but what is your experience with sex and drugs? And how to navigate potential issues related with being intoxicated during kinky play? Thank You!

Okay, onto the recording below!

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